Campaign Story

Hi all! I’m Misty and I’m Fundraising on my best friend Val and her husband Corey’s behalf. They have had such a long tough journey trying to become parents. Hope is dwindling and any and all help is appreciated. Here is their story. Thank you and bless you all.

Growing our family started back in 2016 unexpectedly. We had been married for almost a year and we were not ready for kids so we were still using birthcontrol and condoms sometimes the pull out method well anyways I found out some wonderful news we were pregnant I had made an appointment and was going to wait to tell Corey till after that appointment unfortunately I started bleeding while at work so I went into a walk in clinic and they told me “there is no heartbeat” I was given medication and sent home. We had a trip scheduled with some wonderful friends so we decided to go head and go on that trip. Talk about some crazy emotions and bleeding.

Fast-forward to covid my doctor appointment kept getting canceled for me to get Bc we decided at that time it was ok if we had a baby great if we didn’t great. In 2022 I found out again we are pregnant. The pregnancy was progressing great to our knowledge we took a small vacation the last one before baby got here. At 12 weeks I started bleeding. The new abortion law had just passed… the first hospital we went to shoved us in a room for hours without anyone talking to us by this point I was bleeding a lot and the contractions were uncontrollable Corey finally started yelling at people and I was taken back for an ultrasound they wouldn’t let him come with me afterwards I was shoved back in a room for several more hours it took Corey yelling at people again for us to be told there is no heart beat but it is considered a threatened miscarriage we will give you the rh shot and you will need to come back in 72 hours to recheck. We went back to our friends house and corey along with our friends started advocating for me calling every hospital and midwife they could. Corey had planned to get a memorial piece for Miracle and add Cruse into it to incorporate all of our babies I told him go for it it’s not like he could do anything for us. Right before the 72 hours our friend took me to another hospital she was there when they confirmed we had officially lost our son. She continued to advocate for me because at this point I was shutting down and couldn’t do it for myself. They refused to treat me and told me to go home knowing I was 9hrs from home. We made the drive back to her house and the cramping/contractions and bleeding continued to get worse. Corey and I started to make the drive back to Illinois the next morning it involved lots of stops lots of tears, screaming and so much blood. We made it to litchfield hospital where I had to have another ultrasound and was told they couldn’t help that I would need to be transferred to Springfield by ambulance. Lots of red tape later I was loaded up and transferred they wouldn’t let Corey ride with. I could see him keeping up with the ambulance out the back window and the ambulance driver asking me to get ahold of him to tell him to back off the nurse in back laughed and said I’m not doing that his wife and child are in here and he scares me.
We got to the hospital and it was a world wind they didn’t have a room for us so we set in a bed in the hall Corey signed so many papers and we answered so many questions the hardest being what do you want done with the body… I was finally taken back for a D&C afterwards I complained for months something was wrong but I kept being “shoved” off by being told your body is still healing your mentally exhausted come November they finally agreed to another ultrasound I still had tissue left so we went back in a few weeks later we went back again. I was put on hormone replacement and after that cycle we were released to try again even though I was still having pain. We got pregnant on that first cycle

At this point we had sold our house and almost all our belongings and had moved into an rv. I went in weekly for the first 7 weeks for blood draws they said everything was fine level wise. We had our first ultrasound and they told us the sac was small but not to worry the only reason they were telling us was because my last pregnancy the sac was small them too(first time they told us this) we finished our move to Alabama and met with the midwife we did a blood draw and she looked at my levels they were never ok so she started me on progestin. We went to an ultrasound place and they couldn’t find baby but they did take blood for early gender reveal. We left and went to the er they put me in a room for several hours by myself they wouldn’t let Corey come in they asked me all shorts of absurd questions. Corey finally got to come in and 2 hours later he started demanding answers. They came in and did an ultra sound and we begged the technician to tell us if there was a heartbeat she said she absolutely couldn’t do that but then leaned in and told us the heartbeat was strong and our lucky charm was active. Doctor came in and said I had a sub hemorrhage but not to worry.
We found out she was a little girl 4 days later Leona Danni. At 11 weeks I started bleeding our friends daughter drove me to the shop Corey was at from there we went to the er…lots of waiting lost of blood work and an ultrasound several hours later we were told there is no heartbeat. They gave us recommendations for an ob and the next Monday we went in and they did an ultrasound to confirm and immediately got me in for a D&C. After that we were recommended to a fertility specialist.

(This is just a brew summery of everything we went through)

The fertility specialist has been full of so many ups and downs from find out I need another surgery to finding out we need IVF to finding out IVF was postponed but we are believing and manifesting that healthy sticky baby.

We recently found out we have reach our lifetime coverage with insurance for medications so the IVF medication is out of pocket along with any further medication. We still have to pay for the actual transfer as well as all testing for the embryo(s) so we are pushing down our pride and asking for help.

We just had a failed transfer, that leaves us with 4 frozen embryo. We have to have them tested before we transfer so we are trying to come up with money to test the 4 plus another transfer and medication….

Update we had another failed transfer at this time that leaves us with 2 frozen embryos. I have a surgery scheduled again (june20th) If this next transfer fails it will mean we have 3 options another egg retrieval, continue to transfer into me, finding a surrogate(only way to do that is if someone does it out of the kindness of their heart because we can’t afford an agency), or lastly giving up our dream and my getting a full hysterectomy.

We have officially had 6 miscarriage and with each loss it’s getting harder to keep holding hope, being positive and manifesting…
So if you can find it in your heart to help bring our dream to a reality to help get our sweet IVF rainbow baby here and help eliminate some of the extra stress the money side of things is causing we would be so grateful!

If you can’t donate please take just a moment to share because support means so much to us!

Any money that is left over after we finish our journey and have our sweet triple rainbow baby here we would like to donate to another family that is also suffering with infertility and needs that extra boost of kindness to help them get to their next steps.