Campaign Story

Like so many other little girls, I had always dreamed of being a mom. I used to play with my baby dolls constantly, acting as their “mommy.” I dreamt of nothing but becoming a wife and mom my whole life.

That dream quickly vanished as my life was forever changed on August 1, 2007. My mom, best friend and the heart and soul of our family passed away unexpectedly. Without a second thought, I knew I had to step up and help take care of my younger sister with special needs. She was physically and mentally disabled since birth and there was no hesitation that I was going to help my dad raise my sister. I became a “mother” to my sister . I cared for her 24/7 and devoted my life to her. She was the most precious gift to me and I felt honored to be her sister and help raise her. I had come to terms with the fact that my purpose on earth was to care for her. The dream of becoming a wife and having children of my own was never attainable anymore and I was content with that.

Again, my life was forever changed on May 18, 2022 when my sister passed away unexpectedly. I was beyond broken and had a pain in my heart that I had never felt before. It felt like I lost my own child. I was lost and felt like I had no purpose in life. I was very angry. Why did these horrible things keep happening to me? Was I being punished? Why did God have to take 2 of the most beautiful souls to ever walk the earth?

I was completely lost. I was alone and scared for my future. What was my purpose now!  I found myself on a dating app and was matched with a man who was holding a tiny chihuahua in his profile picture. That instantly captured my attention because I had 2 chihuahuas and I thought a man who is proud to show off his tiny pup is so attractive. We began talking and realized we had so much in common. On our first date, from the moment we locked eyes we both knew we wanted to spend the rest of our lives with each other. What also drew us to each other was that we both had wanted to not only find our soul mate, but to have children.

I knew having just turned 40 that age was not on my side. It was confirmed when I went in for a check up and was told that the very few eggs I have are not good quality. The chance of my husband and I conceiving naturally are near zero percent. Then I was told that if we went down the path of doing IVF, my eggs would not most likely not produce a successful pregnancy. We had a less than 3% chance.  We have an 80% chance of success doing IVF using donor eggs. When I heard that, I was devastated. I felt defective and a failure as a wife and mother that I couldn’t give my husband a baby.

But my husband supported me and told me no matter how we have a baby, he or she will be ours. We are just using extra parts from another mommy. I’ve been more and more excited at the thought of going through IVF using donor eggs. Even though the baby would be half donor, I would still carry him or her in my belly. This baby would be loved and spoiled beyond words.

The process of having our baby does not come cheap. It’s going to cost a lot of money. But to make our dream come true of having a baby we are willing to go to the ends of earth. Nothing would bring my husband and I more joy than to hold this tiny miracle in our arms. I’ve heard that there is nothing like being a mother. I pray every single day that we can be blessed with the miracle of a baby and give him or her all the love that’s in our hearts.