Tee’s final round
Tee’s final round
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Tevyka Heyward is organizing this fundraiser.
Dearest Family and Friends,
I’ve created this fundraiser in hopes of receiving assistance with my third and final egg retrieval. Some of you may be hearing about this for the first time, or at least the first time from me. Some of you have been on the other end of the phone as I go on and on about the goals and dreams of having my children and maybe even some of the regrets I’ve had for sacrificing my best childbearing years for my career, primarily overseas. Either way, I see you as allies and my glimmers of hope.
Here’s backstory: In June 2019, my partner and I had discussed having children of our own. With some of his medical history and me having just come off a fibroid removal the year prior, we wanted to make sure we knew where we stood. After not so great discussions with the VA fertility doctor and a few tests I was advised to either start trying immediately or freeze my eggs. We had opted for egg freezing since I was still working overseas and we hadn’t quite made it down aisle, which was the goal at that time. Fast forward to 2020, outside of a Global Pandemic, I decided it was best for all parties involved that I go this journey alone and with my current work schedule and salary it was going to be easy! Well, fate had other plans as I not only ended up out of the U.S. for 8 months, I had received a cancer diagnosis, and also notified that many of us we’re being sent home due to our location closing. Due to the cancer diagnosis I could no longer work overseas period, as I had to undergo treatment and we weren’t to clear on how intense it would have to be. I also had to find a job stateside and begin the transition of being back home again. Luckily I had saved for a rainy day and in June of 2021 I underwent my first egg retrieval. Didn’t go so great, 2 eggs retrieved and only one made it to freezing. I was devastated. I had gone through so much to get to this point, how could I end up with such a crappy result?! To be honest, the depression and anxiety I was already trying to manage had gotten the best of me at this point and I was just ready to give up. The doctor and her team at the clinic I had chosen walked me back from the ledge of quitting . Explaining that there was still a chance and they’ve had success with less. While initially it didn’t change my sorrow or even my anger, I came around and agreed to try again. However, I had promised myself I would not be this person who spent $40-60k for just a chance. I would only do three rounds and whatever I had at that point is what I had. God was going to work out the rest.
In November of 2021, I went through my second round of egg retrieval, I was way more hopeful but still adamant on not going more than 3 rounds. With this round I was able to freeze only one egg again. Happy Birthday to me! We discussed my options, added an additional protocol and I agreed to come back in March, but low and behold my fibroids had returned and grown pretty quickly this time in areas not best suitable for my motherhood goal. I had what I now refer to as a “slight” meltdown and decided again that I was done! It was too much to bare and I was devastated, again I felt as if my body was truly working against me.
I will say between prayer, quiet time, and chats with those apart of my most inner circle having reminded me that “delayed didn’t mean denied”; I decided to go for one more retrieval cycle before I hit 40. First however, I needed to address the new fibroids on top of my physical and mental health. An August timeline would be perfect to ensure I was good to go.
The vast majority of my health issues have now been managed and I’m ready to go for my 3rd round, however now there’s another barrier. I’ve exhausted all of my personal savings and resources. This has led to why you’re reading my ridiculously long and somewhat embarrassing request. I rarely ask for help and most of you at some time or another have fussed at me for not doing so. I most definitely need your help now. I am fully aware that everyone has their own life and needs to attend to, however this request is my last effort to preserve the ability to have children from my own DNA.
Gift of Parenthood has a grant giveaway that I’ve applied for three times but have yet to win, so I’m going to try the fundraiser route. If you are able to help me reach my goal, I would greatly appreciate it. If you can not contribute, I TOTALLY understand and truly appreciate you taking the time to read the mini-long version of my story.
For transparency, your funds will go towards the following:
Medication leading up to egg retrieval (STIMS)=$3,000
Retrieval procedure= $4,500
Egg storage fees= $500
Meds have arrived
Thank you everyone who has been able to assist. Your donations helped with getting my meds here on time! Baseline follicle count was yesterday. Remaining hopeful
|Shontay Washington||$500.00||July 12, 2022|
|Maisie Dunbar||$50.00||July 11, 2022|
|Isha Sharpe||$25.00||July 10, 2022|
|Noni Jones||$20.00||July 10, 2022|
|Evita Gonzalez||$200.00||July 10, 2022|
|Anonymous||$30.00||July 10, 2022|
|Carmen Griffith||$50.00||July 09, 2022|
|Lymar Curry||$400.00||July 09, 2022|
|Tunisia Ali||$170.00||July 09, 2022|
|Henry Heyward||$200.00||July 09, 2022|
|April Jones||$50.00||July 09, 2022|