Building Our Family After Cancer

Charlotte, NC (US)
Created 2 months ago

Building Our Family After Cancer

by Katie LaMar

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  • $50,000.00

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  • $710.00

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Charlotte, NC (US)

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Campaign Story


My name is Katie and my husband is Ryan.

We met six years ago in May of 2018 in Aruba.  I was on a bachelorette trip and Ryan was on a work trip for team building. We met on an ATV tour, and it turned out we were staying at the same resort. By the end of the trip, we realized we wanted to get to know each other more.

Ryan was living in Boston at the time, and I was living in Charlotte. Post-Aruba, we started texting each other occasionally, that quickly became daily, and before we knew it, we were FaceTiming each other every day.

Finally, in July, Ryan flew out to Charlotte for a weekend trip. That weekend went so well that he flew back the next weekend for my birthday! From there, I knew we had something special.  We did long distance for a few months, which felt like forever. Everything was going great except for the distance.

In September of 2018, I was feeling sick often, so my best friend dragged me to the emergency room. The next day I was sent to a specialist and there I was diagnosed with ovarian and pancreatic cancer. The diagnosis did not look good. Now, I had to break this news to my new boyfriend whom I’d just met five months ago.  He told me I’m crazy to think he wouldn’t want to be a part of my life because of this.

Ryan relocated to Charlotte as soon as possible to support me through all the surgeries and hospital visits. They had to remove one ovary where the cancer was located, then a whipple surgery on my pancreas. Thankfully, the surgeries were a success. I was able to keep one of my ovaries.

In July 2020, Ryan proposed, and we were married in October 2021.  We immediately started trying for a baby. After months of no success, we went to see a fertility specialist. That is when it was revealed that the cancer had spread to the uterus – which no one expected, including my oncologist. Immediately, his recommendation was a full hysterectomy. We dreamt about being parents so we seeked out help to start IVF – embryo preservation. We are so grateful that we ended up with six strong embryos.

From there, we did a hormonal therapy treatment study trial to see if it could treat the cancer. In the meantime, we also went to MD Anderson in Houston for a second opinion. Ultimately, the hormone treatment was unsuccessful, and the second opinion resulted in the same recommendation, a full hysterectomy. The hardest thing was hearing that I wouldn’t be able to carry my own children.

Because this cancer was spreading, my oncologist urged us to have the surgery as soon as possible. The surgery was successfully performed in April of 2023. Currently, I do not need any other treatments, I am “cancer free” – it still feels weird to say. Now, once again, we are ready and excited to start growing our family.

Throughout the years, cancer has taken so many parts of my life – mental, physical, the daily rollercoaster of emotions that I have had to fight through, but I will not let it take away my dream of being a mom. We still want to grow our family but we must go the route of surrogacy.  The estimated cost from our Surrogacy Agency will range from $130,000 to $160,000.

Therefore, with the amount of money it costs to have a surrogate carry our child, in addition to all the medical expenses we have incurred over the years, we humbly ask for any help so that we can have our baby. We have been matched with an amazing surrogate and we are so excited to go on this journey!  We are extremely grateful for whatever you are able to contribute.

Thank you all from the bottom of our heart!

Katie LaMar

Name Donation Date
Andres Garcia $300.00 February 05, 2024
Tanya Nguyen $100.00 February 01, 2024
Cesar Rodriguez $60.00 January 31, 2024
Kaleigh Basile $150.00 January 31, 2024
Jen Rmah $100.00 January 31, 2024